Should you keep your last name after marriage?


Should you keep your last name after marriage?

Should you keep your last name after marriage?: In the old days, there was no dilemma. Taking your husband's last name was an integral part of getting married and no one was even thinking about whether or not this should be done. Women nowadays have more options and there are a lot of them who take advantage of this and keep their last name after marriage. Should you do the same?

A lot of young girls, although they are not even close to getting married, are saying and are taking pride in the fact that they will keep their last name. This has become a trend that many girls follow not because they really care about this, but because this is currently 'in' and they don't want to stand out.

On the other hand, older girls and women do understand the whole issue behind this and they are not driven by short-lived fashion trends. Keeping their last name is probably something that they do to accommodate their need to preserve their independence. And when you think about, it does seem quite difficult to be known by one last name for thirty or thirty something years and then known by some other last name that you may not even like that much.

When thinking about whether or not you should keep your last name, it is important that you think carefully about his family. If they are old-fashioned, they might be offended by your unorthodox decision. Their feelings will be hurt. Of course, if you truly believe in your decision, then you should stick to it. In case you are doing it just because it is 'in', be aware that fashion trends are not worth sacrificing the relationship with your in-laws.

Keep in mind that your last name does not define who you are and if you change it, you will not lose anything. Getting used to your new last name takes time, but it does not take too long. You will still be you no matter what people call you.

Also, do not let anyone tell you what to do. This is a decision that you have to make on your own without anyone influencing you. After all, whether you keep your last name or take your husband's, this won't change your life in any way. Just go with your instincts and you will know what to do when the time comes.

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